What the Heck is the Fear Virus? Little Story #1

I have a story to share about a tooth. About 15 years ago, I went to a dentist for a cleaning. While there, he looked at one of my premolars that was filled when I was very young. I was told emphatically that I needed to get a crown on that tooth; it was on the verge of breaking…so he said. He gave me the line that it was better to take care of it now than later as I might end up needing a root canal instead. He was passing on “the fear virus”.

Here’s the irony. I heard the same thing from another dentist a couple of years before. And yet, nothing had happened with that tooth in that period. That dentist was also rather emphatic. I could now believe this second dentist, take on the fear he was trying to instil in me for his profit and my financial detriment, or I could trust myself and walk away.

I’m really glad I walked away, for as I said, many years have passed and absolutely nothing has ever been wrong with that tooth! I could have gone through all that pain, discomfort, and expense for absolutely nothing but fear.

Why am I sharing this? Because this is happening to so many people every single day. Because we place way too much authority in the voices of “experts” who can only see life through the veils of their training (aka indoctrination) and perspectives. It’s a warning to all, a call not to submit to the fear virus that is proliferating across our planet.

Little Story #2

I’ll give you another example. Earlier this year, my partner was told by his doctor that if he didn’t have a certain procedure, he “wouldn’t see another Christmas”. Setting aside for the moment the completely unethical and unprofessional aspect of such a statement, this message naturally induced quite a fear in my partner. Worse yet was the fact that the doctors who were to have performed this “life saving” procedure failed to get in touch month after month. It started to cause panic in us both with each passing week we were put off, until I remembered something important: the Universe knows best.

By breaching ethics in the egotistical way he did, to plant that seed of unnecessary fear in my partner, this so-called doctor certainly caused far more harm than good (so much for “do no harm”). Maybe that procedure will one day be necessary. Or maybe it never will be. Either way, it isn’t meant to happen now, and it certainly won’t be helpful to have it under a falsified threat of impending, early death. True to my remembrance, the failure of the hospital to set a date for the procedure gave my partner the time he’s needed to re-evaluate his symptoms, reconsider what’s really happening with his health, and reflect on whether Dr. Ego even meant what he said or was just having a bad day and taking it out on him.

Little Story #3

What brought these stories to the surface is another tale I recently heard from a client whose doctor had tried to instil the fear-virus in her by saying that because she was run down and overstressed with responsibility, it was all the more important for her to have this shot and that shot and to take this pill to make her feel better. I won’t share more about that personal story, but I will share how angry it made me to hear it for several reasons.

When a person is facing challenge, they don’t need to hear how much more at risk they are for this disease and that disease and this or that psychological issue. The last thing, NOT the first thing, they need is a pharmaceutical option. First they need to be reminded that diet, sleep, and exercise are key. They need to be encouraged to self-care. They need to be reminded of their own power to heal. And they need to be reminded that challenge and difficult feelings fall on everyone; it is not a pathology to feel down when facing hardship! Popping a pill isn’t going to change anything; in fact, it may very well cause more enduring problems. And don’t get me started on shots!

The Molar Moral of the Story

Look, we all have to make our own decisions. What I’m trying to bring to light here is that too often, we relinquish what sovereignty we have because we think someone else knows best, and we usually do this out of fear. It’s a mistake! A big one. Our beliefs are powerful vessels of our faith, and it seems someone is always out to steal that power or steer it towards whatever serves their egos, pocketbooks, or paradigms. It’s time to recognize and own this power for ourselves.

We’ve got to start recognizing when someone else’s fear is trying to worm its way into our own system. We’ve got to start seeing how we ourselves might be trying to push our own fear off on others. And most importantly, we’ve got to stop taking actions out of fear and wasting precious time, money and energy.

Need a way to start? Check out this journal entry of “Four Steps to Overcoming Fear“.