Have you ever heard that the finger you point is a mirror? This month, we’re stepping into one of the most powerful and humbling aspects of healing: learning to recognize projection, reclaim shadow, and choose radical self-responsibility. This isn’t always comfortable, but it’s deeply freeing.
“If you see an evil man, search yourself for his faults and you will find them. And if you see a good man, search yourself for his virtues and you will find them.”
— Sufi proverb
Why We Blame
When we see corruption, greed, or harm in the world, it’s natural to want to blame. Leaders, politicians, and systems often seem like the obvious source of our collective pain because we project all of our power onto them, and with good reason. They are meant to represent us. Whether they do is another question.
But while wrongdoing absolutely exists, blame rarely heals. Blame gives our power away. It keeps the focus on others instead of inviting us to look within.
The Shadow We All Carry
Every human carries both light and shadow. We all hold, in some measure, the very qualities we judge in others:
- The desire to control outcomes
- The urge to manipulate
- The hunger for power
- The tendency to avoid hard truths
This isn’t cause for shame; it’s simply part of the human condition.
When public figures embody these qualities on a grand stage whether they know it or not they’re reflecting what still lives unexamined in the collective field. Public figures , whether it’s Trump, Biden, or any other world leader, often act as symbolic mirrors for the collective. Whether they’re aware of it or not, they’re holding pieces of the human shadow we haven’t fully owned yet.
“But I’m nothing like him or her!” I hear you exclaim. “I have morals. I have ethics!” This is a completely rational statement but only on a certain level of consciousness that has yet to understand that everything and everyone is a mere projection of your dream. While it may be uncomfortable to acknowledge this at first, it ultimately provides a way out of toxic suffering.
The real work of healing isn’t about fixing “them.”
It’s about meeting what they reflect in us.
Radical Self-Responsibility
Real healing doesn’t happen when “they” change. Real healing happens when we are willing to meet our own shadow with honesty and compassion.
It means saying, “Yes, I’ve seen these qualities in myself and I choose not to feed them. I choose truth, humility, love, and integrity instead.” This is not spiritual bypassing. It’s radical maturity. And choosing these means rooting out all the places where we allow jealousy, anger, hatred, and arrogance to fester. It’s the path that transforms both the personal and the collective field.
Final Thoughts
As long as we continue needing villains, we delay our own healing.
The world changes most when enough of us choose to wake up from within, not through denial, but through radical self-responsibility.
In the end, healing isn’t about eradicating shadow. It’s about seeing it clearly, owning our capacity for both harm and love, and making conscious choices toward the light.
This Month’s Pause & Reflect Practice
- When judgment or outrage arises, pause.
- Ask yourself: What part of me might this situation be reflecting?
- Breathe. Allow yourself to feel whatever arises without judgment.
- Offer compassion to yourself and to the parts of the world still trapped in shadow.
Journal Prompt:
Where am I still projecting blame that may actually be a call to heal within?
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